8 steps to making your dream come True

Have you had a dream for a while but don’t now where to start to achieve it?  Are you too busy with what is going on in every day life to even consider that your dream might actually come true on day?  Well, you CAN make it happen!

 

Here’s how to start…..

1.  Talk about it.

It’s really that simple!  What you talk about, you bring about!  So get those thoughts out of your head and share your dream with others.  Especially if you plan on someone else being involved in it with you (like your spouse, for example)  Talk to your friends about it.  Even if you know your dream isn’t something they would want to do that’s fine.  They aren’t doing it….YOU are!!!

 

2.  Research it.

This is the fun part.  The internet is a great place to find out about anything, of course!  I like to look up articles on Pinterest when I am thinking about my dream.

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Facebook and other social media are also great places to get information.  Join a group with your same interest.  If possible, get involved with the group.  If there are physical events related to the group try to go to them and meet others with your same interest who might be living your dream!  They are usually excited to share their successes and trials with you!

 

3.  Physically experience it or witness it.

Physically experience or wtness your dream in action.  If your dream is to try a new lifestyle like full time RVing, buy, rent or borrow an RV and take a short local trip.

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If your dream is to start a new business, visit a similar business to inspire yourself.  Watch other people who share your dream to get inspired!  If your dream is to work less or quit your job to spend more time with your grandkids, take a weeks’s vacation and try it out!!!

 

4.  Make a financial plan.

A dream usually requires a financial plan.  Get a notebook and write out all of the scenarios so you can compare them.  How much money will I need?  What expenses will I have?  How will I finance it?  What will be my income sources?  How much will I be bringing in?

 

5.  Get your family on board

At first your family may not jump on your dream bandwagon. Don’t give up!  Keep talking to them about it.  Give them time to soak it in.  Take them to a place to let them see your dream in person.  Years ago, my husband and I dreamed of living full time on a houseboat (We still do).  So we took our four young sons to look at them.  They were onboard (pun intended) instantly!!!

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6.  Make a plan.

Just like you wrote out a financial plan, write out a physical plan of all of the things you need to do to get your dream going.  Look at it everyday.  Keep it on your mind because remember, “What you think about you bring about.”  Make a list of the things you need to accomplish before you can achieve your dream

 

7.  Start working the plan.

Just start.  Take Baby steps.  Just start and work towards your goal.  Start knocking out the preparations for your dream.  Do something on your list every week or every day if you can even if it is small.  Write it down so you can feel encouraged instead of discouraged because it is taking too long.  Dont’ give up!  Even though it may be taking a while eventually you will get there!!  If you did nothing, then you would never get there so remind yourself that you are doing the things that need to get done so your dream can happen!  You are doing it!!!

 

8.  Take the Leap of Faith!

You have thought it all out.  You have done your research.  You have seen it in action.  You have your family’s support.  You have done the work.  You have a financial plan in place……LEAP!!!!

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Why be Frugal?

I read a lot of articles about being Frugal and what I have found is that a lot of the information I read isn’t new to me as I was raised in a frugal household.  When I was growing up my parents were raising seven children on one income so being frugal/conservative was a necessity!  I have to admit I hated it. I was embarrassed sometimes of my handmade clothes when the other kids at school had “store-bought”.  I hated only being able to use a teeny tiny piece of tape when wrapping Christmas gifts.  I hated when my parents were constantly saying “Turn off the lights! You’re wasting electricity!!” I wanted to just relax and be a consumer!!!

However, these practices came in super handy when I got out on my own as I already knew how to be frugal!  My parents taught me a special skill that everyone should know but most don’t.  Even if you feel like you are blessed enough that you don’t have to be frugal and you have plenty of money for the things you want and need……Here are some reasons you should practice frugality in every day life.

1.  To prepare for Emergency.

     Life brings unexpected stuff.  What if you lose your job? You may think that your job is secure but trust me, losing your job can happen.  What if you or someone in your family gets ill and you have to help care for them and miss work or have unexpected medical bills? What if your pet gets sick?  What if your furnace goes out?  What if your car breaks down?  I could go on and on but I will stop there.  We should all have some kind of savings set aside for emergencies, preferably 6 months of salary.

2.  To preserve our earth for our next generations

     Our earths resources aren’t going to last forever if we don’t conserve and replenish them.  So, by turning off the lights, taking shorter showers, recycling, repurposing and being more conservative in general we are saving the earth for our next generations!!  That’s a great feeling!!!

3.  To pay off debt

      Our goal should be to have as little debt as possible.  I used to have a lot of debt….I mean mounds of it!  I was taught to be frugal but I was not taught how to manage money.  I spent every penny I got my hands on and then some with credit!  I was a teenager and young adult in the 80’s when the mindset was “The Bigger The Better!”  I wanted ALL of the STUFF!!!  I didn’t understand about simple living then.  Instead of saving money and being conservative I was spending and trying to figure out how to get more money!  Long story short I ended up with nothing.  I lost a LOT!!  I spent my time working so hard and ended up with NOTHING!!!  Now, I avoid debt and still working hard to get my debts paid off by being frugal in my life and putting that money towards debt.

4.  To fulfill a dream

     Being frugal now means that I can achieve a dream later.  I still need to be frugal out of necessity but, since I have paid off a lot of my debts, I can start pursuing a dream!  My husband and I have always wanted to live on a houseboat.  For years we have talked about it and came pretty close a few years ago but it didn’t quite work out.  We have not given up on a dream of a different lifestyle.  Right now we are concentrating on getting our kids through college and getting more debt paid off.  Having a goal helps in being frugal.  It helps you get through a tough time when you really want those new shoes but you stop and think “Which is more important?  That new item or the dream?”

5. To make ends meet

       This is has been my reason for being frugal most of my life.  I am so glad I learned how to be frugal growing up.  We didn’t waste ANYTHING.  We made do with what we had.  We took care of the items we had and made them last.  We weren’t too proud to accept hand me downs.  Neighbors, friends and family did favors for eachother instead of hiring someone to do jobs around the house.  We cooked a lot of things from scratch.  We never ate out.

6.  To afford the things you really want

     You may only want to be frugal so you can afford the things that you really want and that is okay.  If it keeps you from using a credit card then that is good!  If you decide you want to eat really cheap at home for a month so you can afford something you really want like those new shoes or whatever your heart’s desire then I totally think you should do that!  I knew a girl that would keep her heat turned down in the winter and literally freeze so she could afford to go clothes shopping!!!!  I think that is CrAzY but I don’t judge!!!

There are many different reasons that people might want to be frugal.  I think being frugal is a fun challenge.  At times in my life it wasn’t so fun but, it helped me get through tough times when I needed to!!!

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                                          Peace and Love, Daphne

You might be a hippie if……

So, you think you might be a hippie…..

Well, Let's see what the definition says.....

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 or hippy
[hip-ee]
noun
1.  a person, especially of the late 1960s,, who rejected established institutions and values and sought spontaneity, direct personal relations expressing love, and expanded consciousness, often expressed externally in the wearing of casual, folksy clothing and of beads, headbands, used garments, etc.
Let’s ponder this shall we?
  • a person, especially of the late 1960s:  I was born in the late 1960s but I don’t feel this is really key.  I believe there are hippies born every day.
  • who rejected established institutions and values:  One who doesn’t like rules that don’t make sense and rules that don’t embrace humanity.
  • sought spontaneity:  What do I feel like doing today or at this very moment?
  • direct personal relations expressing love:  Hippies love every one and expect everyone to love back.  They are heartbroken or disturbed by the cruel treatment of others.  This includes animals.
  • expanded consciousness: Aware of one’s own existence, sensations, thoughts, surroundings….a dreamer and a ponderer.
  • often expressed externally in the wearing of casual, folksy clothing and of beads, headbands, used garments, etc:   Let’s face it, we love thrift stores and fringe:)   

Here’s a FUN synonym….

flower childflower child

 

1.  (especially in the 1960s) a young person, especially a hippie, rejecting conventional society and advocating love, peace, and simple, idealistic values.
Okay...Let's groove on....ha ha
You might be a hippe if…..
  • You like any music that originally came out on vinyl
  • You still play vinyl albums on a turntable
  • You love shopping at thrift stores
  • You repurpose things and give them new life
  • You live how you like to live and don’t care what others think
  • You can’t wait to get home and take off your bra
  • You love animals
  • You rescued your pet
  • You help rescue other animals in some way
  • You like Volkswagons
  • You love camping
  • You would live in your camper or motorhome
  • You love the outdoors
  • You have a CB radio and a handle
  • You know what CB radios and handles are
  • You collect old stuff
  • You don’t fit in with the “normal” crowd and you like it
  • You own a tape recorder
  • You like braids
  • You went to Woodstock or wanted to
  • You still attend music festivals
  • You would enjoy living off the land
  • You want a quiet life
  • You don’t need a lot of stuff or money to be happy
  • You are happy with a simple life
  • You try to eat organic
  • You like going for walks outside in the fresh air
  • You like spending time with your dog
  • You decorate with things you like that don’t necessarily go together
  • You like to mix it up in home decor and clothing
  • You don’t care if your socks match
  • You drive a van and you like it
  • You love the outdoors
  • You don’t have to spend a lot of money to have fun
  • You support artists
  • Your purse has fringe…so do your boots
  • You have your fringed leather jacket from the 60s and you still wear it
  • You like reading…from an actual book
  • You drive an old car and you like that
  • You like JUNK
  • You like roadtrips
  • You have made your own clothes
  • You added pie pieces to your bell bottoms
  • You would still wear those bell bottoms now
  • You like beads
  • You Pinterest files reflect you love hippe stuff
  • You wear Boho clothing
  • You know what Boho means

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Thank you friends for your interest in this post!!  I welcome your comments!  I would love to know what you would add to this list!!  This is such a short list but remember, we are just figuring this hippie stuff out as we go along!  There are no rules to being hippe!  It’s a feeling!!  Love you all!!!   Peace and Love, Daphne

 

 

 

Getting started……

Getting started?  Start being a hippie?  When does that start?  I think….birth, but bec165639-Peace-Loveause we live in a world that to me is confining.  We fall into a routine that is not nurturing to our hippie souls.  My employment has never been hippie-like and I fell into the scene of trying to climb the corporate ladder in retail and restaurant management because that is what I thought I should do to “succeed”.  Our society has expectations of success and a quiet life is rarely encouraged.  After being terminated after 13 years of impeccable service from a retail grocery store chain for giving away their trash (food) to a lady that helped needy families, I can’t seem to get back in the groove of the rat race corporate world.   I feel like termination was my “out”.  A gift from God…to be released from that serious group who’s RULES don’t have regard for people…..for feelings…for doing what is right for humanity.

So, I’m beginning my hippie life.  I didn’t even know I was.  It is just evolving.  How do I know?  I’m listening to my heart and my gut instinct.  I’m pursuing freedom and a simpler life.  I’m not even sure what that is, I am just figuring out as I go along.  What is great about this is that I have an adventure buddy (my husband) that is on board. We have always dreamed of adventure!  BUT, we were caught up with our jobs and raising kids and getting them to all of their activities so our dreams were put on hold.  We dreamed of living on a houseboat and our boys were excited about it as they love the water but it just never worked out since the marina wasn’t in the right school district and the 30 minute drive to town from the marina wouldn’t have been convenient when you have four sons in sports and you have to get them to practices and such.  But, the dream was still there and couldn’t be denied.

Ten years later, we had a little money saved and our boys were all out of the house and in college.  We love our kids but we were excited about being empty nesters!  We started looking for a houseboat but we wanted to pay cash and houseboats were out of our budget but did we give up?  No!  We researched ‘campers for sale’ and found a 30 foot Winnebago that was in pretty good shape for it’s age.  It was an adventure just getting her home!  We stopped at a gas station to get gas and all eyes were on us!!  Made some new friends while pumping the gas which was great since she wouldn’t start after that and we needed a jumpstart!!!  But we got her home and she is our dream!  We named her Winne and I want to just drive her to the woods and move in!!  That can’t happen right now but we are so looking forward to summer adventures!  I hope if you feel the hippie coming out in you that you will be inspired by following our journey.  I don’t know where the journey will take us but it will be an adventure getting there!!  Peace and Love,  Boho Hippie Chick